No one wants to feel rejected, right? Rejection hurts and many people we know deal with this daily. This post is for all of us who have experienced rejection at some point in our life. Whether it is a closed door with a business opportunity you thought was about to change the trajectory of your life or a relationship that did not end in the way you envisioned, hang in there - there is light at the end of the tunnel.
On a podcast conversation , my husband and I shared on what to do when we experience rejection. I shared a personal story of a time in my life when I felt my whole life was crumbling, I had faced a major heartbreak. It hurt. I was disappointed. I was angry. Yes, I felt all those feelings. If you have felt any or all of those emotions, you are not alone. These are all normal feelings under specific circumstances. The good news is there is a way to deal with rejection and that is exactly what I will be sharing today.
So, let's get started.
Embrace how you are feeling but don't dwell in it.
It is completely okay to feel the way you are feeling. In fact, for the sake of your mental health, it is important to acknowledge how you feel. You can journal or vent about your emotions with trusted support system, which can be friends or family. Do not choose social media as the place to vent as you might say things in anger you could regret when you feel better. Acknowledge how you are feeling but don't live in your pity party. Share how you are feeling but look for ways to get out of that rut, so you can begin to actually heal.
"Rejection doesn't have to mean you aren't good enough; it often just means the other person failed to notice what you have to offer". - Ash Sweeney
Surround yourself with positive vibes.
I will tell you this, great podcasts, motivational talks and inspiring youtube videos can get you out of the rut you are in. Find great motivation to listen to. Videos like those by Eric Thomas, Stephaine Ike, Priscilla Shirer, and Sarah Jakes Roberts are a great resource for positivity. You will feel so much better when you listen to speakers like these. You will feel motivated and energized to keep going. Also, ensure that you have people around you who are speaking life into you and affirming God's promises over your future. Don't give up. Not every closed door is a bad thing, some rejections are blessings in disguise. Years later, you will look back and be thankful for that situation you went through. It is not pretty when you are going through it but rejections are nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success (Bo Bennett).
Okay, this one is a big one. How many of us have literally stayed under the blanket after a major life disappointment? We don't want to talk to anyone. We don't want to do anything. We just want to cry and bawl our eyes out. If you can see me right now, I have not just my hands up but my legs too because I am guilty of this. However, I have learned that focusing on ways to serve others, getting involved in projects like Meal Distribution Programs will keep your mind busy and away from your pain. There is joy in serving others or working on projects that you love. Find something you enjoy doing and get involved. Get busy. This will help you feel better about yourself and get over your rejection. Plus, you never know who you will meet at such volunteer programs or projects. A new opportunity might open up for you that makes what you were rejected for pale in comparison.
I really hope these tips help you to overcome rejection. Remember, your identity is not etched in people or their opinion of you. Rejection is not the end of the world. God has great plans for your life. Be encouraged in this: May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13.
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